The hereafter and all that

I have mentioned a few thoughts about how things should be handled when I breathe my !last but here is the latest update.
Cremation of course.that will.not change.
However where my ashes should be scattered has changed.
I've run into so much prejudice on my being Southern that New England is the last p!ace I'd want to be.
Instead I want to return to where I came from.but where? I decided on Virginia  since I was born there.I intend to delve more into my father's side of the fami!y via ancestry.com since there are too many ???? For me to ignore.I can make up for all the family reunions I missed out on.but what about the cemetery visits my children visited? Was that in West virginia? I can leave that up to whoever carries this out.
This is important to me.if this can't be done,just toss me in the trash.
I fervantly hope my granddaughter can visit this area someday because this is part of her heritage.something she can be proud of.as I am. When I go it's all gone.
I a!so believe in haunting. Yes, I do.